It
- prevents us from doing the things that we should do, or would like to do.
- produces mental stress and physical illness.
- robs us of the happy, healthy life that we deserve!
Our children must learn that there are two types of fear.
The first type is the fear of circumstances that are truly dangerous. This fear is important, and must be paid attention to.
Should you have some fear about waking into traffic? Facing a vicious dog? You bet! These fears are there to protect us from situations that might actually harm us.
The second type of fear is different. It's also much more common. It's the fear that arises when no danger is actually present. For example some kids are afraid of:
- meeting new people
- trying a new thing
- not conforming with other children
Exercise:
- With your child, identify a situation that would ordinarily cause him to be afraid.
- Use visualization to "rehearse" the situation...with a successful outcome. Have Matt close his eyes. Say something like "Matt it's your turn in front of the class. You feel so calm. Your muscles are loose. You are breathing easily. You move without hurrying. You actually enjoy your time in front of the class. You finish your presentation and everybody applauds. You have a huge smile on your face as you return to your seat. You feel so proud of yourself."
- Repeat and reinforce this process frequently, each time creating a vivd picture for Matt.
- Teach Matt to "replay" this mental image on his own.
Your Friend,
Ivan Kravitz
US Blackbelt Academy
30251-H Golden Lantern
Laguna Niguel, CA 92677
(949)363-6500
www.teamusba.com
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