Heather says "I want to be popular no matter what... I'll do whatever it takes."
Monica says, "I'd like to be popular of course...but not at any price. I insist on being myself!"
As parents the thought expressed by Heather is bound to make us uneasy. Monica of course, expresses a healthier perspective.
When popularity issues become too important to your child problems arise.
- Sometimes children will do things that they know they shouldn't do... because they are afraid of losing popularity... They may cave in to peer pressure.
- Other times, kids will feel that they aren't popular with the "right" crowd. They don't appreciate their current friends.
- Some kids believe that popularity is based on the "right" clothes, or how many "Instagram followers" they have. They lose their identity by following the crowd.
Teach your child to be a person who does the right thing..no matter what others think, and that loyalty, integrity, and kindness will lead to genuine popularity.
Teach them to treat all others, regardless of social status with respect and courtesy.
Remind them not to be tricked into doing things they know are wrong in order to gain popularity.
Above all, continually teach them about the value and importance of relationships to each other within your family. Teach them about your family history and heritage. A young person who has a strong sense of family pride won't succumb to the pressure to be TOO popular.
Popularity will come to your child when people recognize him/her as a person with integrity!
If you have any questions regarding popularity issues, give me a call...I'd be happy to help!
Your Friend,
Ivan Kravitz
US Blackbelt Academy
(949) 363-6500
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